Transforming relationships through the yoga of presence

I offer this work because I know from experience that transformation is possible. With willingness, capacity, readiness and support you can free yourself from the limitations of past conditioning and create a life and relationships that are an authentic expression of you. But my work isn't about pushing anything, it's not about setting goals or feeling powerful It's about becoming all of who you are; marrying your sublime divine nature with the wonky human being you appear as, living from a place of presence, which illuminates the truth in every moment. It's about support you in returning to the simplicity and ordinariness of your natural state and from here witnessing your life unfold. This is where change happens effortlessly and in ways you might never have predicted. 

I was born into an atmosphere of terror and rage. We were the 'dysfunctional family' on the street and although our wonderful mum did her best, my siblings and I met with more than our fair share of poverty, abuse, violence and fear. But from as early on as I can remember I felt a strong sense of knowing that no o­ne was to blame. I couldn't condone the behaviour going on around me, it's true they were responsible for the choices they made, but I could clearly see that they weren't waking up everyday hoping to make our lives sad. I could somehow see that they were caught in a continuation of human pain that stretched way back through generations. And although I was living this drama of my life, I knew it wasn't anything to do with who I really was. I somehow sensed my essential nature was far more wonderful than that. 

There was a moment when I was very young, I guess it's what you might call a pivotal moment - I was alone with my mum, she was crying because my dad had beaten her. I tried to comfort her, but felt so helpless, I was so small and my dad was so big and scary. But I knew I had to do something. I was too young to be able to help in any practical sense of the word, so I decided instead to make a promise to myself. And that promise was to dedicate my life to changing the generational family patterning that had held the people around me in its vice like grip for years. And so I grew a fierce passion inside for freeing future generations that they might have the chance of a happier, healthier life. I was so determined. I made a commitment to myself that my own children, should I have them, would never be cold or hungry or harmed. 

And so began my passionate inquiry into the nature of reality, into who I really am, and how to bring my gifts to the world.

In 1993 my dad committed suicide and a year on my marriage ended. I'd already begun searching for ways to heal and integrate my past, but these events triggered a hunger for resolution. As well as seeing a Homeopath, my ex and I went to Couple's Psychotherapy to find ways of creating as healthy an ending as possible, and at the same time I attempted to seek individual help from several Counsellors and Psychotherapists, all of whom turned me away, saying that my story and my state of being was too complex for them to work with. That was very weird for me - I was so identified with my 'story' I felt all at once abandoned and powerful. In 1996 my Granny died and two weeks later, three days before I qualified as a Homeopath, my mum died from cancer. I stood in the ruins of my life and knew something had to change and so packed a mattress, a bag of clothes, three bicycles and a copy of Pippi Longstocking into an old Volvo estate and moved, with my children, aged 8 and 7 yrs-old, from London, to a rented house in the middle of a field in Horningsham. And there I cried. Each night, once the children were in bed, I sat under the stars and wept. I wept for myself, for all the many horrors that had gone before, for my parents and siblings. Then my sister and my three nieces came to visit for five days and never went home. And later, my ex moved to the area to be closer to our children.

In 1997, when my inheritance came through, I had just enough money to buy myself a house in Frome. This was a huge for me and I set about creating a safe, beautiful space to grow my children. Around the same time a friend introduced me to Daniel and my life changed in so many wild and wonderful ways I'd never thought possible. Two years later my children and I joined forces with him and his three boys and we all moved into a huge, tumbling, crumbling Georgian town house, which we patched together with bus ticket and glue. With the blessing and support of our ex partners the four of us worked tirelessly, as a united force, to manage the complex weekly arrangements and the incredible adults we now enjoy are a testament a joint endeavour of love. And I am so proud of them all, so grateful for their willingness to come on our ride.

Determined to resolve my past hurts I then embarked on a number of 'self-help' workshops, including Landmark Education, Brandon Bays - The Journey, Elizabeth Kubler Ross's incredibly brilliant workshops on Death and Dying, lead by Colin Caffell. Then in 2003 I found my spiritual teacher, Adam, and really, his teaching and tender guidance rocked my world. I had no idea what I was entering, no idea what he did, all I needed was help. And with tremendous grace, humour, patience and love he held my hand and guided me gently from the nightmare of my history, back home to here, to the realisation of my radiant source nature, appearing as this funky little human called Kate. My work is now entirely informed by this and, using a non-practice process of self-inquiry I support others in awakening as embodied consciousness, which is a non-dualistic radical acceptance of present moment reality, bringing people to a personal realisation of who they truly are... Peace appearing as Energy - Love appearing as Life.

I began working with people in 1996 after completing my homeopathic training and have since worked with thousands of people; adults, children, couples and families. My original training was in classical homeopathy, transpersonal psychotherapy and allergy testing, but through my own process of dismantling my past, which, as I said, have lead me to myriad workshops and trainings, I've acquired a vast toolkit of diverse and fascinating ways to support my clients.

I work intuitively, meeting people exactly where they are in their process, working with what interests them most, and in whatever way feels appropriate at the time. I am passionate about my work, very committed to what I do and am always left feeling so touched and inspired by the courage and trust people bring to my room.

As well as offering the above, I also write children's books and make collage artwork. My novels are about ordinary children finding themselves facing overwhelming situations with little or no support and are pub HarperCollins. I've also written a picture book, which is pub by PenguinRandomHouse. You can find out more about my books here. And you can purchase books and artwork here.

It's clear to me that my books and my talks in schools are the place where my difficult childhood, my lifelong passion for writing, and the insight and understanding I've gained through supporting thousands of people in a therapeutic setting, meet.

I feel so blessed by all and everything my life has become, so inspired by the incredible people I've met along the way. But my greatest inspiration still, is the little Kate inside me who worked so hard to keep me safe. I have such reverence for her courage to stand in the face of all the chaos spread before her and say, "Enough!"

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